Dating to Win

by Terry MacDonald

Whether you're young and new to dating, or getting back out there after a divorce, you may wonder what the rules are. Forget the rules. Your first step is to ask yourself is what you plan to accomplish by dating. Then write down your answer. Just having a clear purpose in mind will help you achieve it. (If this sounds silly, you may assume that everybody who tries to meet a member of the opposite sex has the same goal. This is a grave mistake.)

For instance, you may determine you don't want to get seriously involved with a man. Just knowing that will help you navigate sticky situations and prevent you from unintentionally breaking hearts. If, on the other hand, you decide you want a guy with whom you can fall in love and who will fall in love with you, it helps to know that, too, because it will shorten the path to finding him. It will also keep you from wasting time on the wrong men and having your heart handed to you.

Program Yourself For Dating Success

If you've bought into the myth that all men fear commitment, or that there just aren't enough good men to go around, you will probably prove yourself right. It's human nature to do this, and we tend to find evidence to support our beliefs. Fortunately, we can change those beliefs. It helps to remember this quote by W. Clement Stone: "What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." (continued)

The rest of the aticle can be found in The Ultimate Guide to Dating & Relationship Advice.

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